DANGERS OF PRE- MARITAL SEX

Pre-marital sex is referred to as sexual relation between two or more people prior to marriage. The meaning has shifted to all sexual relations a person had before a legal marriage.

Premarital (or extra-marital) sex is always a losing proposition! God is clear that His wonderful gift of physical intimacy is to reserved for the boundaries of marriage. Inside of those boundaries, the sexual relationship is a gift that blesses a couple and a family abundantly. Outside of that biblical commitment, the sexual relationship is always destructive, empty, and sinful. God's word for this is FORNICATION

Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly. Like atomic power, sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When atomic power is used correctly, it can create boundless energy, when it is used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is the gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure to help in creating deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation of the next generation. But if you play with this powerful force outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you.
Satan has caused much damage to the youths making them to commit fornication. Fornication is pre-marital sex. Damage which could not be repaired has been inflicted on young promising persons and the have to live with it for the rest of their lives.

The dangers of pre- marital sex to be discussed here has been categorized into 3 main dangers;
- PHYSICAL DANGERS
- SPIRITUAL DANGERS
- EMOTIONAL DANGERS

1. PHYSICAL DANGERS
There are numerous physical dangers that individuals are likely to encounter whenever they engage themselves in pre- marital sex. This may affect our health, academics, social life with others and our marital life as well. The points below delve much into the aspect of physical dangers in pre- marital sex.

1. Contraction of sicknesses and diseases
Those who engage in premarital sex run a high risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases rampant today, as well as losing their fertility. Not just AIDS, but other common disfiguring diseases like herpes have no cure.
Imagine that you have found that one special person with whom you want to share your life. And now you are forced to break the news that you have an incurable disease. Even though such diseases like herpes are generally not considered life threatening, there are no cures. Not only is it incurable, it fills a life with worries, awkward revelations, and continuous need for medication. Herpes and other STD's are everywhere. Why do you want to risk yourself contracting an STD? The best and only method that guarantees 100% against AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases is to wait for marriage to have sex and maintain fidelity in your marriage.

2. It increases the rate of unwanted pregnancies.
Most pre-marital sex ends up in pregnancy. And most of the times unplanned and unwanted pregnancies. When this happens, some of the youth are forced by their situation to have abortion. The rate of abortion has increased because of increase in pre-marital sex. Involving in pre-marital sex is a sin of its own but committing abortion is murder. Almost all today's youth must have committed murder before reaching age 25. Even if they give birth, some of them abandon their babies in dustbins, gutters and other public places which is an increase to their original sin of fornication. Some secretly sale their babies to ready buyers who use such babies for rituals, or resale them to wealthy couples who could not bear their own children. Numerous scientific studies show that the children of single mothers suffer psychologically and are less successful socially and academically than children from intact families. Above all, children need both their father and their mother. It is wrong to risk having children who will never have their father's love, protection and care.
3. Premature parenthood
Many persons who engage in pre- marital sex are not matured enough to cater for their own family. Some may be in school, others may also engage themselves in petty petty works with earns them little money. And it becomes very hard when such persons are catering for their own babies. And most of the times, not all their needs are met.
4. It creates suspicion and distrust in marriage
Another danger of sex before marriage is that it opens an avenue for distrust and suspicion in the marriage union. Apart from the loss of dignity, honour and self respect the couples would have enjoyed with themselves if they had kept their bodies pure, the chance of suspicion in their marriage will be very high. It may be difficult for those who slept with each other during courtship to trust each other when eventually married. Either of them may be faced with questions such as ''How am I sure that he/she will be faithful to me if he/she could not discipline himself/herself during courtship?'' What is the assurance that he/she is not sleeping with others if he/she agreed to sleep with me?. These and several other suspicious thoughts can be precipitated by sex before marriage, and could result in serious emotional stress, disturbance or damage, especially during times of pressures and misunderstandings. The maiden prettiness and beauty of the woman prior to her marriage begins to wean in the mind of the husband after a recognized marriage. The reason being that for the fact there was pre-tested sex cast a doubt of infidelity on the man or woman. The man may assume that the passion driven influence either on the lady or man is an instinct that grows to functionality at any given moment.
    Premarital sex is a determinant of some married couple's conflict. Why? It is because it generated suspicion, lack of trust on the man towards his wife in the absence of the woman or man suspicious became an intermediate state. It mars a glowing relationship.

5. It kills vision
The shattering of dreams is another physical danger caused by pre- marital sex. Studies show that when young people engage in pre-marital sex, their academic performance declines. This gradually take your dreams and visions down. But In the state of pregnancy, school drop out is the next agenda on your life list and by the time you will realise, you may be engaging in a trade which was not part of your dreams. There that you know  '' had i known, is always at last''
6. Some also marry wrong people who are not supportive, friendly and compatible.
7. One may also die through child birth or abortion.
Don't get bored, I hope am making sense here or are you involved? Anyway you still have to know.

2.  EMOTIONAL DANGERS
There also arise some emotional dangers from pre- marital sex. Those who participate in premarital sex experience emotional damage that may lead to an increased chance of mental depression and emotional despair. Examples include the following:
1. A feeling of guilt
When you choose to develop a sexual relationship with someone, you have immediately changed the entire definition of the relationship. God's intent was for a man and woman to enjoy sex throughout the course of a lifetime. There is no such thing as casual sex. Once you have developed a sexual relationship, that relationship turns a critical corner. After the relationship ends, you and your partner will experience the guilt and pain of broken promises .
2. It also creates unpleasant memories
If you date and you don't have sex, you can forget about that relationship when you break up. But if you have sex with those you date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant memories for your whole life. Every relationship you break up where you had intimate relations is like a mini-divorce. The psychological difficulties of these mini-divorces does damage to your character. Later, when you are married and go to bed with your beloved spouse, these unpleasant memories will accompany you.



3. SPIRITUAL DANGERS
Spiritual dangers can never be left out when considering the dangers of pre- marital sex. This is the most destroying part in ones life. Lets discuss them.

1.It is a sin against God
Those who engage in sexual relationships commit sin against God our maker. God created sex for procreation and companionship only in marriage, yes, only in marriage. And aside marriage, God describes it as fornication.
Don't do it. From the Ten Commandments in Exodus to the laws of Leviticus 18, to the instructions of Paul in 1 Corinthians 6-7 to the public embarrassment that attached to the Virgin Mary, the Bible is clear that God's standard is that sex is to be reserved for marriage, and marriage alone.
The Bible teaches that we should reserve sexual intimacy for marriage for no other reason than that, if we are Christians, we belong to God. Sex outside of marriage is not only a sin against ourselves and our partner, but a fraudulent misrepresentation of God and a cruel distortion of the intimacy he created to be a picture of the eternal intimacy of the Trinity itself.
Here are some related quotations about fornicators 

1Thessalonians 4:3 - For this is the will of God even your sanctification that you should abstain from fornication.

1 Corinthians 6:9 - No fornicator will inherit the kingdom of God.

Colossians 3:5-6 – Fornicators attract the anger of God against themselves. It is a dangerous thing to fall into the hands of God.

Deuteronomy 22:13-21 – Penalty of fornication is death.

Matthew 5:32 – The sin of fornication is the only ground on which a man should divorce his married wife. Fornication is a very terrible sin as it affects all the body.

2. It creates an ungodly soul tie

A soul tie is an agreement one enters with another that creates a special bond between two people. Soul ties are common and exist everywhere, husband and wife, parent and children, teacher and student, pastors and church members, employer and employees. Sex is not just a causal fun as most people think and take it to be. It is much more than that, it involves blood. The Bible says “Life is in the blood” Lev.17:14.
When you have sex with a person you have given a part of your life to that person and in return the person has given you a part of his own life in the spirit realm. In the spirit realm, two of you have become one. You start to share things in common. That is why disease, sickness, demons and many things pass through during sexual intercourse. In addition, you have just created ''a soul tie'' between you and the person involved. Since God does not permit pre-marital sex, it becomes an ''ungodly soul tie'' in the sight of God. That is why some girls find a special liking or memory on the day of dis-virginity, the blood that flows out that day becomes the blood of the covenant or agreement. Genesis 34 Shechem the prince of the land of Hivite committed fornication with Dinah the daughter of Jacob. The soul of Shechem cleaves unto Dinah. First it was lust, and then came love, yet it was ungodly

3. It fragmentize your soul

Since sexual intercourse creates soul ties, each person you have sex with you have given part of your heart or soul in the spiritual realm. That is why people who were promiscuous before settling down for marriage find it difficult settling down at all because their soul has been divided; always thinking of their relationships with their previous partners thus making it impossible for them to settle down for marriage. If a person has slept with a thousand persons in his life, his love, heart and several other things has been shared with these thousand persons. A close look at the society shows that wayward people find it difficult to have a fulfilled marriage life because they have shared their life with several people.

Most promiscuous people are involved in extramarital sex. They are never satisfied with one person just for no reason, always looking for their lost soul. It is dangerous engaging in pre-marital sex because it can affect your marriage in future.

4.It passes demons to you

This is perhaps the most worrisome part of pre-marital sex. Demons and other problems gain entrance into your body through pre-marital sex.

1 Corinthians 6:16 “know ye not that he which is joined to a harlot is one body? For two saith He shall be one flesh. Have not heard how a serpent that was in another person was transferred to another in the course of sex. It passes demons to your generation. Any sin that becomes a habit is iniquity.
Pre-marital Sex Is Lust

Engaging in sex before marriage is tantamount to building on a wrong spiritual foundation and this may have serious negative effects on the marriage. For those who have fallen victim of premarital sex, immediate genuine repentance is required to break the consequence of violating God's law and repair the faulty foundation.
Love is from God. It gives unconditionally and it can wait. Lust is from Satan. It is selfish and wants immediate gratification. Any man that loves you will never demand sex from you as a proof of your love for him. Love is patient, is long suffering and endures.

Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your life – the person you committed to stay forever in marriage. Your virginity is the most precious thing you have to your spouse. Once you lose it nothing in the world can bring it back.



   
1 Corinthians 6:18 - Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.

1 Corinthians 10:8 - We should not commit sexual immorality, as some of them did - and in one day twenty-three thousand of them died.


Romans 13:13 - Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy.
5. It leads to a generational curse.
The Bible clearly speaks of the concept of generational sin. What you sow (plant) spiritually may be reaped in the life of your children. Break the power of Satan's curse. Remain pure before God and you'll be tenaciously guarding the future of the next generation.
The Bible, time after time tells us to flee sexual sins. Why? Because it is a major strategy of the devil to sabotage God's work on Earth.

If you have never committed fornication, God has a simple message for you—DON'T. (Eph. 5:3) If you are committing fornication, God also has a simple message for you—STOP. (Acts 15:29)

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